The Blesser

“The Blesser”, also known as a sugar daddy, is an older man who gives money (blesses) to a younger woman in exchange for sexual favours. We see how “the blesser” has so much control in this relationship because of the financial situation this young woman is in. My message is that we should stop judging whether people’s actions are morally righteous or not because we do not know what they go through, especially women. I also want to highlight that sex work is supported by poverty. Some women use their bodies to survive. If universities and more government funds were given to needed citizens it would decrease the rate of sex work, ultimately lowering unwanted pregnancies and sexual transmitted illnesses.

He did not take advantage of me,

he took advantage of my situation.

I was much younger back then.

I thought maybe it would feel like love

He knew so much better.

He did not take advantage of me,

he took advantage of my situation.

I was all my sick mother had

and I had school at hand.

Without her close to nothing income

we had no lights at home

and more bills from the nearby pharmacy

where she got her pills.

He did not take advantage of me,

he took advantage of my situation.

His claws shredding through my ripped jeans

exposing my youthful,

naked brown skin

His voice,

masked by heavy breaths

felt it down my neck

His lips,

cold planted

on my unwilling body.

My moans were filled with poverty

and my tears with pain.

He did not take advantage of me,

he took advantage of my situation.

I was just like a beautiful ntyatyambo,

a flower,

starting to bloom.

As a bee.

He came,

snatching my precious pollen

“This is how it’s always been,

to better human kind”

(Or at least mine),

he said.

Throwing a few bucks

and a couple of rands my way

I found that convincing enough to stay.

He did not take advantage of me,

he took advantage of my situation.

Please do not judge me

I did what I did.

I had to do it.

My mother,

how was I going to bury her?

My brother and sister,

What were they going to eat at night?

And I,

I did this for myself too

How was I going to finish school?

I say again,

He did not take advantage of me,

he took advantage of my situation.

I am South African aspiring poet and story teller.I am influenced by social, religious and political circumstances around the world.I am a proud black young women who tries to be the best version of herself. I am 17 years old, still in high school and I love reading. I am also an aspiring content developer,art director and street thought evoking independent model. I perform at open mics and a few events such as the upcoming Afro Fest (http://www.theafrofest.com/content/likhona-cophiso/) . I am fortunate enough to be on the editorial team at Bellville Technical Highschool and was featured on a local poetry podcast (http://www.podradio.co.za/index.php/2019/03/10/poetry-10th-march-2019/)